According to the author "Holly Hill" who "quit" her job as a psychotherapist to look for a sugar daddy, men are natural cheaters and it's "no big deal". They still love you, but they need to sow their wild oats because you just aren't going to have sex with him enough unless you are a nympho. Based on this ignorant twit's interview, her book isn't worth buying. Do check out the interview posted on Glo at MSN. Spoiler alert, she's shallow and basically takes women back about a couple hundred years. Let's look at some excerpts and quotes from the linked interview shall we?
"Why do you think men cheat?
In most cases, it is simply because they aren't getting enough. The urge to have more sex is generated in the same part of the brain as the urge to have another slice of chocolate cake. ..."
Okay, comparing sexual fidelity to eating extra slices of chocolate cake. First of all, one slice should be enough. However, if you indulge in two or three, as I have in moments of weakness, you are only hurting yourself. If a man cheats on his wife, he's degrading and hurting his wife. Not only that, but he subjects his wife to unnecessary medical risk. As if that weren't enough, lest we forget, that if the guy didn't want to be with that woman anymore, he should say so and be a big boy about it.
"Can men really be monogamous, in your opinion?
I would say 100 percent of men cannot be mentally monogamous... A normal man could also achieve monogamy with a highly-sexed woman, as could a man with a low libido and a normal woman. However, a normal man and a normal woman who have decided on lifetime sexual exclusivity [could] face chances of divorce and a very high chance of cheating."
Okay Dr. Whore. Thanks for your 2 cents. I call BS as does every other woman. Women have needs too, but it's still wrong if we seek fulfillment from another man. Even if that fulfillment doesn't involve sex. It just goes to show you how much "Holly Hill" hates women despite being one.
"How do you think women can prevent men from cheating?
...negotiating some infidelity if you are not “in the mood.” It does not have to be other lovers: It could be pornography, or a lap dance..."
Here's my negotiation. If you don't want to be faithful, don't marry me. Pretty simple. You can have me OR mistress, porn, lap dances. NOT BOTH. I don't see how that's so hard to fathom. Married women need love and attention but they can't start seeing other men for that.
"...Don't let yourself go — there is nothing less valued than a commodity that no one else wants..."
Screw you, skank! Coming from someone who's promiscuous who obviously no one wanted to marry or at least marry and be faithful to. You want to talk about value. How about someone you only value to have sex with but no relationship, long term commitment, or deep bond? I could weigh 1,000 pounds and have warts all over my face and still be valued more among men than "Holly Hill".
Hey, I have the perfect model for allowing a man to sleep with other women, get lap-dances, etc. It's called being single! I'd like to say I thought it up myself but it's been around since, oh, about the dawn of time.
LADIES: NEVER EVER EVER COMPROMISE YOURSELF FOR A MAN.